Stärke statt macht «neue autorität» als rahmen für bindung

The article discusses the principles of parental presence and non-violent resistance from the perspective of attachment theory. The «new authority» advocated in our model of «parental coaching» revolves not around the control of the child but around the restoration of impaired attachment between parents and their children. The child's awareness of psychological security is furthered by reliable presence, watchful care, endurance, and persistence on the part of the parents. New potentialities in the relationship between parents and children are opened up via an emphasis on parental self-control rather than control over the child, endurance rather than immediate retaliation, transparency and networking rather than a strict hierarchy, and reconciliation as opposed to reward and punishment mechanisms. The idea behind the approach is for parents to develop «working models» that subscribe to a logic of relatedness rather than a logic of control.